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EXPLANATION OF THE SAÑCARITTA SUTTA (MATCHMAKING)

Background

The Sañcaritta Sutta belongs to the Vinaya Piṭaka in the Theravāda Buddha-Dharma tradition, in the Bhikkhunī Vibhaṅga, the analysis of the rules for bhikkhunīs. The background of the text records an incident at the city of Sāvatthī, where a bhikkhunī named Sūnadarī interfered in arranging marriages for women from households. Her involvement caused controversy about the rules of practice for bhikkhunīs, because it concerned worldly relationships and the capacity to create marital connections between families.

The Buddha witnessed the consequences of this event, when those without faith in the Buddha-Dharma criticized the conduct of the bhikkhunīs. This was contrary to the spirit of the discipline that had been laid down: rules intended to preserve purity, build public confidence in the community of monks and nuns, and educate the mind of the practitioner. This text therefore records a specific rule intended to prevent bhikkhunīs from taking part in worldly activities such as arranging marriages.

Main Content

According to Sañcaritta, bhikkhunīs are prohibited from participating in arranging, negotiating, or “helping to bring together” married couples. This act is considered a violation of one of the rules of practice (Pācittiya, an offense requiring confession). The reason for this prohibition is profound: when a nun takes part in such matters, she is:

First, using the trust placed in the community of monks and nuns for worldly purposes, thereby diminishing the honor and morality of the monastic order.

Second, creating complex connections with lay families, which easily lead to disputes and conflicts if the marriage does not succeed.

Third, straying from the main purpose of practice, which is to seek liberation (Nirvāṇa), and instead being drawn into psychological afflictions such as desire (lobha) and anger (dosa) when involved in worldly matters.