Lzh Sarv Bu Pm 2 Pc 81Visiting Families Before a Meal

The Discourse on Visiting Families Before a Meal

Cāritta - Vinaya Piṭaka

Background

This discourse belongs to the Vinaya Piṭaka of the Pāli Canon, the section prescribing discipline for the Sangha. In the early context of Theravāda Buddhism, bhikkhus observed the code in order to maintain a pure appearance, concentrate on practice, and attain awakening. This discipline concerns the proper conduct of bhikkhus when interacting with families that support them.

Cāritta means "conduct" or "ethical custom," the rules of behavior that shape the life of the noble Sangha. This rule reflects the social purpose of the Buddha-Dharma: bhikkhus must both receive offerings from the community and protect the dignity of the path, building public trust. Visiting families before a meal must follow specific rules to avoid misunderstanding, maintain purity, and respect both sides: the Sangha and the faithful.

Main Content

This rule states that when bhikkhus are invited to visit a family before a meal offering, they must observe rules concerning time, behavior, and purpose. Bhikkhus should not arrive too early, so as not to create difficulty for the family preparing food. Moreover, bhikkhus must keep the mind pure and must not become overly familiar or act in ways that could be misunderstood.

Specifically, the rule forbids a bhikkhu from making careless or sexually suggestive gestures toward women in the family. He must not engage in private conversation for too long, especially with female members. Bhikkhus need to maintain a respectful attitude, focusing on the purpose of receiving offerings with gratitude, not seeking enjoyment or social interaction in a worldly manner.

This rule also protects the honor of the offering family. If bhikkhus observe discipline, the public will have strong trust in the Sangha, strengthening the spirit of offering and creating conditions for them to accumulate merit.